Demisexuals, other victims of trauma, people with body-image issues, people whose sexual interests are so stigmatized they don't feel comfortable disclosing them to people they've just met—lots of people face the same challenge you do.
You can even to download them on your smartphone to watch later, no problem at all!I was in a long-term relationship that ended about two years ago.I started dating this past year, but I'm not really clicking with anyone.I found out that for the past few months he has been sexting and almost definitely hooking up with someone who I said I was not comfortable with.After our initial conversation about her (during which I expressed my discomfort), he never brought her up again. I was sexually and physically abused as a kid, and raped in my early 20s.I have been seeing a great therapist for the last five years, and I am processing things and feeling better than I ever have." And while it is true that many people are capable of doing just that, at least as many or more are incapable of having impulsive one-night stands because they too have a history of trauma, or because they have other psychological, physical, or logistical issues that make one-night stands impossible.(Some folks, of course, have no interest in one-night stands.) Your trauma left you with this added burden, SCARED, and I don't want to minimize your legitimate frustration or your anger.Had I known that he needed her in his life this badly, I would have taken some time to sit with my feelings and figure out where my discomfort with her was coming from and tried to move through it.We are in an open relationship, but his relationship with her crosses what we determined as our "cheating" boundary: hiding a relationship.