Ideally, write it before you leave the house to do something interesting. Have fun writing your emails, and enjoy the process of meeting someone new.That way you’ll be in a positive mood, you won’t be tempted to write too much, and you’ll be too busy to keep checking for a reply. And when you do, we’ll be pleased to receive an email from you, telling us all about it.
” and, my favorite, “I like candlelit dinners, sunsets and walks on the beach” (yes, people still say that! If you look at ten random profiles right now, I bet you’ll find the same thing—everyone’s “funny” and “laid-back” and “adventurous.” I used to have a standard, generic profile, too, with a list of adjectives and facts: fun, outgoing, great speller (looking back, not sure how that applied), and insert-a-bunch-of-other-adjectives here. First, I would spend 30-60 minutes talking to the client.
But when I started writing people’s online dating profiles for e-Cyrano.com, all that changed. By the end of our phone call, I’d pare down what they’d said into an enticing short story while marketing their date-ability in the process.
If it’s just their dazzling smile or their sparkly blue eyes, that’s fine!
If their profile made you laugh out loud in the middle of Tesco, say it.
Then, have a few trusted opposite-sex friends read your finished product and get their feedback.
Or post your profile online and see what people respond to, then amend it from there.Similarly, if you claim to love your job but the time stamp on your message says you sent it at 9.30 on a Monday morning, your reader might doubt your career ethic.Stick to neutral hours, like lunchtimes and early evening.I’d make sure that every sentence focused on what the reader—your future boyfriend or girlfriend—could expect when dating you.The end result would be a profile that read like a good article or book jacket instead of a dating ad, and when someone reached the end of it, they’d want to read more and contact the person.If they love a certain stand-up comic, use the beginning of one of their jokes (Google is your friend at times like these).Create something that’s witty and warm and demonstrates you’ve read their profile, as opposed to just flicking through their photos. Research has shown that people warm towards hearing their own name in conversation.Tailor it to their interests or their work, or even one of their photos.Ask open questions that require more than a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ reply, because these are more interesting to answer.As e-Cyrano’s founder, Evan Marc Katz, likes to say, “It’s simply our job to capture you, like a cameraman taking a photo.” So, why not revamp online dating profile? Then, figure out and write down what’s 2) Like with any writing, “show don’t tell,” and the more specific, the better. Evan is a big believer in “redefining the adjective.” Meaning, if you think you’re “funny” and state that you’re killing it in your stand-up comedy class, you write the funniest messages in birthday cards and you make everyone at work laugh, that’s OK.Here are the top things I learned when working with people on theirs—that will work for you, too. But the e-Cyrano method would have you choose the best, most concise example of one time you were funny with an ex and put it into present tense: “When you have a bad day, I’ll dress like Homer (your favorite Simpsons character) and do impressions of him until you feel better.” 3) Write 200 words or less.