There is a website has an advertising section and there are men and women in there looking for or desiring to be slaves.Note: I am not an expert on this subject, just my observation.[I only bring it up because so many people on here throw the terms dom and sub around like it's nothing and I wonder how many people have truly had a D/S relationship.Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc.
This relationship takes trust, loyalty, respect, and love to a whole other level. There are a million websites that people can gain information to understand.
There is so much ignorance when it comes to this type of relationship and it often leads to people getting hurt phyiscally because they do not educate themselves.
To dominate is to have full control over the situation and the person but not necessarily to be mean or hurtful toward the person. It is the subs job to simply obey, no matter what the request. there are boundries set and discusssed ahead of time... the sub always has the option to say the safe word to end things *hence the control* but yes... I like to take full charge at times sexually but i don`t want to run someone`s life on a full time 24/7 basis.
I say this in that a truly functional D/S relationship neither party would do anything harmful so the sub has no fear of doing anything illegal or truly hurtful. I only bring it up because so many people on here throw the terms dom and sub around like it's nothing and I wonder how many people have truly had a D/S relationship.a true dom/sub realationship.. he/she is there to please the parnter BUT they have to want to be in that position... anyone who likes that should by all means go for it but i think it`s more exciting to make it just one aspect of your sex life along with other aspects.
They lack the self confidence and have never been with a lover who made them feel like this is "for me too" kind of sex.
There is a time in many womens' lives when they open up and realize sex can be as much fun for them as it apparently is for him.
There seems to be a LOT of discussion around being dominant or submissive in the bedroom.
There is a HUGE difference between someone being in charge or leading the activities and dominance.
It makes them feel properly LUSTED after and in a loving relationship couples need (IMHO) a bit of that for variety AND to show your mate that that is how you still feel about them, making love to them and how much they turn you on.
On the other hand there are people who will no doubt show up and post their views on this thread that clearly shows they think ANY deviation from lightsout-missionaryposition-twiceamonth kind of sex is horribly perverted and "abuse" and evidence that one sex HATES the other - or some such nonsense. Many women are not comfortable with their sexuality until they get older.