In True Love Dates, Debra Fileta encourages singles not to kiss dating goodbye but instead to experience a season of dating as a way to find real love.Through reading powerful, real-life stories (including the author s personal journey) and gaining insights from Fileta s experience as a professional counselor, readers will discover that it ispossible to find true love thr In True Love Dates, Debra Fileta encourages singles not to kiss dating goodbye but instead to experience a season of dating as a way to find real love.
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I'm a Christian single lass who seeks a godly marriage relationship.
They are disillusioned with the church that has provided little practical application in the area of love and relationships.
They ve been bombarded by Christian books that shun dating, idolize courting, fixate on spirituality, and in the end offer little real relationship help.
Debra Fileta did a good job at presenting a Christ-centered relationship and the consequences of compromise without limiting it to her personal opinions on the subject.
If you’re like me and interested in preparing for a future relationship or to help in a current relationship, I recommend it as a good source of information and advice to add to your collection.The first section focuses on who I am, where I come from (and how that can impact relationships), and what I want out of life.As she says:‘In order to proclaim “I do,” one has to know and understand “I.”’The second section focuses on what to look for in a potential partner (with a focus on the major aspects of character, rather than the external characteristics of looks and money), while the third section focuses on our relationship with God:“If you desire marriage, seek God. In the end, if you entrust your heart to him, God will use your desires to lead you in the right direction.”The final section of the book is answers to the questions she hears most frequently in her counselling practice.Likewise, the dating advice is, once again, not I'm a Christian single lass who seeks a godly marriage relationship.Likewise, the dating advice is, once again, nothing but rehash.(I especially liked her comments on ‘biblical dating’: that in Bible times, a woman’s spouse was pretty much chosen by her parents, who then paid the groom a dowry consisting of family treasures and a donkey or two. I think not.) I like the fact that Fileta is writing from the point of view of a Christian who lives in the real world.I've read Christian self-help books in the past that have been off-putting because the author has written from a Christian bubble where everything is rosy and no one ever has an unkind or impure thought.I know who I am, but do I know who I want to be when I no longer have children at home?And do I know who God wants me to be, now and in the future? The first three look at what Fileta sees as the three main stages of dating: inward, outward and upward.I thought the book was well written and had good, practical advice that can be applied to all relationships instead of setting up a rigid formula.We are, after all, individuals and every relationship is going to reflect different personalities.